For me...

[StMonicaGuideMe]

Hello friends,

My marriage (after a very very long relationship) is ending, despite my best efforts to save it. But when I'm being asked to do something immoral, with absolutely no logical reasons to change my mind, its become such a huge impasse that it's no longer avoidable. I thought almost 2 months ago that maybe there was hope, but now, it's completely unraveled. I'm in enormous agony, and I ask you all to please, please pray for me, that God gives me strength to survive this...thank you...

[Danieltwotwenty]

Will be praying for you

[Silvertusk]

I will pray for you through this hard time - may God give you all the strength you need.

[B. W.]

Please feel free to send a Privet Message to me if you would like to go into to detials... and need an ear to listen

Be blest!

[DannyM]

Hello friends,

My marriage (after a very very long relationship) is ending, despite my best efforts to save it. But when I'm being asked to do something immoral, with absolutely no logical reasons to change my mind, its become such a huge impasse that it's no longer avoidable. I thought almost 2 months ago that maybe there was hope, but now, it's completely unraveled. I'm in enormous agony, and I ask you all to please, please pray for me, that God gives me strength to survive this...thank you...

you're in my prayers, sister

[StMonicaGuideMe]

Thank you, kind ones. I prayed for all of you during Mass today in thanks for your support <3

[neo-x]

God bless you and be with you and guide you.

[StMonicaGuideMe]

Thanks, Neo. Deo Gratias for the mercy the Father shows me. I humbly ask, too, that prayers for my very, very lost husband be included. Though I am receiving abundant support everywhere, it is difficult to sometimes face my fears. It seems like the relationship isn't ending yet, but I am in limbo, so to speak. I see the multitude of dangers to my soul & I fear I may not be strong enough in my faith, especially if I have a husband who constantly belittles me and Our Lord. I want to be strong, I want to be a beacon of truth, of hope and of true unconditional love, and in the spirit of Christ, I would suffer whatever it takes for my husband's soul.

I wish to act in the image of Saints who persevered through similar trials (like the saint in my name). So many people abandon marriage, and though this is very, very, very hard, and I know I will suffer much, I find peace knowing that Christ will take this suffering and turn it into something truly miraculous. Only he can turn pain into goodness! Such is the nature of our Lord, and I am so thankful for the gift of faith to know this!

But, I admit, I am afraid. I am afraid I don't know what God's will is in this case, and I'm afraid I won't be able to discern it. It is so hard, he's become someone I can't recognize. He has so much rage and anger, and it's spilling out onto me in a much worse way. I've been called stupid, blind, brainwashed, ignorant, pathetic, sworn at -- and it's terrifying. Please, continue to pray for this situation. I know God hears me, but I know it can't hurt the more who ask.
Thank you again friends. I am so blessed to have found such incredibly humble, God-fearing, God-loving people who welcomed me with open arms from day one. Bless each and every one of you abundantly <3

[1over137]

It is so hard, he's become someone I can't recognize. He has so much rage and anger, and it's spilling out onto me in a much worse way. I've been called stupid, blind, brainwashed, ignorant, pathetic, sworn at

This is so sad. You'll be in my prayers too.

[StMonicaGuideMe]

Thank you so much <3

[Proinsias]

Apologies if this is not welcomed in this area of the board but have you, as a couple, had any relationship counselling?

[StMonicaGuideMe]

When I suggested it for this, he said "what? so we can talk to a CHRISTIAN counselor who will side with you?". I'm of the mind that if one is absolutely certain one has the right way and is living the right way and has the "truth", as he thinks he has in his atheism.

[Proinsias]

When I suggested it for this, he said "what? so we can talk to a CHRISTIAN counselor who will side with you?". I think deep down he must know he's wrong because he's too afraid to talk to anyone who he knows will disagree with him.

Would you be happy to go see a non Christian counselor who may side with him? In my experience marriage counseling is more about bonding over a dislike of counseling, not about finding a counsellor that mainly agrees with one party.

[B. W.]

We did before our marriage for basic prep, and I definitely learned much (how to communicate, understanding temperaments, etc) but I think he scoffed at the whole thing because it came from "the church". He wasn't like this before we were married. He defined himself as a Christian, but at best non-denominational. I could live with that, clearly, since I married him.

When I suggested it for this, he said "what? so we can talk to a CHRISTIAN counselor who will side with you?". I think deep down he must know he's wrong because he's too afraid to talk to anyone who he knows will disagree with him. He hasn't told ANYONE about this. I'm of the mind that if one is absolutely certain one has the right way and is living the right way and has the "truth", as he thinks he has in his atheism, then he should have NO problem telling everyone about it :S So there's something weird going on here...

1 Co 7:15, "But if the husband or wife who is not a believer decides to leave, let them leave. When this happens, the brother or sister in Christ is free. God chose you to have a life of peace." ERV
-
-
-

[StMonicaGuideMe]

If he wishes to leave, he can. He's chosen not to.

As for the counseling, he flat out won't go.