Forgiveness

[EachNewDawn]

Hi,

I live with a family member who wants me to trust them with my personal thoughts (and almost demands that I do), but has often said hurtful things (without realising it) such that I don't even trust them enough to be able to say that I don't trust them enough. And it means that I'm not even comfortable with expressing my opinions or even with talking about music and books I like. I forgive this person and choose to keep on showing them love instead of being spiteful, but I realise for me to be able to trust them, one of us would have to completely change their worldview, as this person's comments come straight out of it. It's difficult to have a relationship with someone when you can trust them to do many things for you but can't trust them to respect a simple difference in opinion or personal taste.

I will keep on forgiving this person, but I'm unsure of how to respond, as a Christian, in the long term. I fear that at some point I will have to let go of any relationship with this person (and possibly other family members) to follow the LORD- I think of when Jesus said that he came to divide houses, to put family member against family member. I'm the youngest person and only Christian in my household and although I will be able to meet more Christians in just under two months when I go to uni, this problem won't go away. Does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? What can I do (as well as prayer) to be ready for such a decision?Also, what does the bible say on this?

Each New Dawn

[theophilus]

The only solution I can see is to simply be careful what you talk about when this person is present.

[B. W.]

I can see your predicament since you mentioned on another thread your family background. They maybe trying to change you to go another route you do not want to go and then you have to wait till you can leave the family tree. I agree with theophilus on this and would add to ask for the spiritual gift of wisdom on what you are to do and handle this. Next, try the Proverbs 25:22, 21 approach with wisdom and tact so after you are able to leave, they'll remember something that will sting them later and have them repent of. Again, also pray yourself to endure with strength and wisdom in action. These sound like trite words but they are not. By doing these things your'll develop a character trait of empowering faith in Jesus Christ because the Lord will teach you to hear his voice more and able to discern the many ways and venues he speaks with increasing discernment. What you learn will stick with you the rest of your days and help you endure whatever pains and hardships come your way.


Pro 3:5.6, Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.
Pro 3:7,8, Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the LORD and depart from evil. 8 It will be health to your flesh, And strength to your bones.
-
-
-