What emphasizes love?
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Re: What emphasizes love?
I can't pretend to understand the logic of your mum or the culture but my Dad is much same in that he has never told me he loves me. His actions have proven one way or the other I guess.
He is Finnish and I don't think he was brought up to be open to express himself. I have often joked he has the emotional maturity of a three year old.
But I disagree words are cheap.
In regards to heartfelt expression. I have chosen to not live in the emotional barrenness my dad did.
When you know better you do better, and well I know better.
I have told my kids I love them everyday of their lives, with an openness that terrified me at first. That's not to say I didn't appreciate everything my dad did for me, he worked his ass off... Gave me the best education but all we want is to be loved. At the very core.
There are many ways to express that, but I like the linguistic approach....
I love you,
Sometimes is so hard not because we don't feel it, but because we are programmed to not express it.
I think it's best to just say what we mean and mean what we say...
but I understand very well that sometimes those that have the most love have the biggest difficulty putting it into words.
He is Finnish and I don't think he was brought up to be open to express himself. I have often joked he has the emotional maturity of a three year old.
But I disagree words are cheap.
In regards to heartfelt expression. I have chosen to not live in the emotional barrenness my dad did.
When you know better you do better, and well I know better.
I have told my kids I love them everyday of their lives, with an openness that terrified me at first. That's not to say I didn't appreciate everything my dad did for me, he worked his ass off... Gave me the best education but all we want is to be loved. At the very core.
There are many ways to express that, but I like the linguistic approach....
I love you,
Sometimes is so hard not because we don't feel it, but because we are programmed to not express it.
I think it's best to just say what we mean and mean what we say...
but I understand very well that sometimes those that have the most love have the biggest difficulty putting it into words.
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Re: What emphasizes love?
John 5:24
24 “Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life.
“A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves.”
-Edward R Murrow
St. Richard the Sarcastic--The Patron Saint of Irony
24 “Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life.
“A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves.”
-Edward R Murrow
St. Richard the Sarcastic--The Patron Saint of Irony
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Re: What emphasizes love?
Haha well I'm no princess Leah
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Re: What emphasizes love?
A Norwegian friend said that Scandanavians would not show feelings, even if they had any.melanie wrote:I can't pretend to understand the logic of your mum or the culture but my Dad is much same in that he has never told me he loves me. His actions have proven one way or the other I guess.
He is Finnish and I don't think he was brought up to be open to express himself. I have often joked he has the emotional maturity of a three year old.
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Re: What emphasizes love?
To quote 'Chasing Cars' by Snow Patrol..
Those three words
Are said too much
They're not enough
And that is true.
BUT
It is also true that we do not say those three words enough
And use actions instead.
We need both.
God didn't give us both as options to choose from according to our own
personal preference.
There is a time for everything.
Those three words
Are said too much
They're not enough
And that is true.
BUT
It is also true that we do not say those three words enough
And use actions instead.
We need both.
God didn't give us both as options to choose from according to our own
personal preference.
There is a time for everything.
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Re: What emphasizes love?
Byrds, "turn turn turn"Nessa wrote:To quote 'Chasing Cars' by Snow Patrol..
Those three words
Are said too much
They're not enough
And that is true.
BUT
It is also true that we do not say those three words enough
And use actions instead.
We need both.
God didn't give us both as options to choose from according to our own
personal preference.
There is a time for everything.
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Re: What emphasizes love?
Well, it did play in my headAudie wrote:Byrds, "turn turn turn"Nessa wrote:To quote 'Chasing Cars' by Snow Patrol..
Those three words
Are said too much
They're not enough
And that is true.
BUT
It is also true that we do not say those three words enough
And use actions instead.
We need both.
God didn't give us both as options to choose from according to our own
personal preference.
There is a time for everything.
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Re: What emphasizes love?
Bet ya won't be washing mine...Audie wrote:Love, my mom says, is what you do when you see a sink full of dirty dishes.
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Re: What emphasizes love?
Use to hang at my friends place, help with dishes and such, so I'd somewhat agree with what audie's mum's said about love. It's partly how I expressed my love to her but in saying that if I was at my parents...I would also do dishes, but out of obligation not really love.
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Re: What emphasizes love?
Audie, what would be your reaction if your mom DID say it, how would you respond?Audie: Mom never once said the words "I love you" to me, and I dont think she ever will.
I don't say it to her. Words are cheap, and its just not our culture to say it.
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Re: What emphasizes love?
I would be surprised, wonder a bit. But Im pretty much American now, so itPhilip wrote:Audie, what would be your reaction if your mom DID say it, how would you respond?Audie: Mom never once said the words "I love you" to me, and I dont think she ever will.
I don't say it to her. Words are cheap, and its just not our culture to say it.
seems natural to say it.
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No you are not. If you were, you'd probably know how to spell your name.melanie wrote:Haha well I'm no princess Leah
FYI, it's Leia.
John 5:24
24 “Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life.
“A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves.”
-Edward R Murrow
St. Richard the Sarcastic--The Patron Saint of Irony
24 “Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life.
“A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves.”
-Edward R Murrow
St. Richard the Sarcastic--The Patron Saint of Irony
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Re: What emphasizes love?
The importance of words:
If you can't say what you mean, you'll never mean what you say.
If you can't say what you mean, you'll never mean what you say.
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Taken from.wikipedia...
Garfunkel once summed up the song's meaning as "the inability of people to communicate with each other, not particularly internationally but especially emotionally, so what you see around you are people unable to love each other."
Garfunkel once summed up the song's meaning as "the inability of people to communicate with each other, not particularly internationally but especially emotionally, so what you see around you are people unable to love each other."
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Re: What emphasizes love?
One of my fave songs.Nessa wrote:Taken from.wikipedia...
Garfunkel once summed up the song's meaning as "the inability of people to communicate with each other, not particularly internationally but especially emotionally, so what you see around you are people unable to love each other."
Faith is a knowledge within the heart, beyond the reach of proof - Kahlil Gibran