If it's any consolation, you were likely putting those brown "widows" out of the misery of losing their husbands.
Re: this topic though, I'm not really joking. The issues I am getting at has caused many falling outs in Christ's church one a Christian being told they're not really Christian, that they're unscriptural or don't believe in the Gospel or what-have-you.
My wife's natural sentiments of saying sorry to the spider and God, made me wonder whether YECs naturally think the same thing when they feel bad about unnecessarily killing one of "God's" distorted creatures. Given they believe the Fall corrupted God's perfectly good creation.
If God didn't create spiders as they are, we're not really killing God's creatures but rather something which ultimately Satan and our sin had a hand in bringing about. In which case, we should really be killing as many of the damn buggers as possible. Right?
- If one believes what the Scriptures teach, then one should believe that a change took place, or at least began, at the Fall of Adam. If God completed His creation according to His purpose, then one must acknowledge that God designed creation to eat vegetation, with a change taking place in the creation sometime later.
(https://answersingenesis.org/animal-beh ... -the-fall/)
Although Sin ruining God's creation was the main position I came into contact with growing up, which is
very Augustian in flavour for explaining why evil, pain and suffering exists in the world... Many YECs do believe God "re-programmed" and/or "re-shaped" animals and the like after the fall so that diseases and carnivores now existed.
Nonetheless, if Satan's deception led to God needing to ruin His own perfectly good creation, then Satan is the orchestrator. Satan pulled God's strings, to make God ruin His own perfectly good creation. Which then led to spiders being the little biters that they are.
Let me say now, if God really intended a perfectly good creation, with no death, non-carnivorous creatures and a disease-free world, that nothing could have frustrated God's desire for such. Not Satan, not sin, not humanity. Satan (a mere creature) could never pull God's strings to manipulate Him into doing something. This means God is actually the orchestrator, God used Satan, sin and the like all as part of His plan.
This kind of turns
the Augustinian response to evil (watch YouTube video) on its head. That is, I concede that our free will is responsible for much evil into the world, and that such is required if true love is to exist (since love required freedom to choose). If however the YEC view of the Fall corrupting creation is correct, Satan being aware of the consequences of sin being death would have known that deceiving humanity would force God's hand to install death. This places Satan above God, in this respect Satan is manipulating God's rules against Himself.
No! I can't really accept that picture. Unless one concedes Satan has some power over God, God planned for everything that happened to happen. God is responsible
not just in action but also intention for spiders being little biters. God used Satan, allowed him to approach mankind and deceive us. God's good creation wasn't destroyed, but
everything altogether is as it was always intended by God.
God not simply allows evil, pain and suffering in the world but allows and intends it for a purpose. All the biting little creatures, pain, death and suffering is something God intended for our world. It is God that allows Satan his time here, to tempt, test and destroy
all according to the bigger picture that God has. So then, unless we say God isn't in full control, we must seek to understand this bigger picture.
Jac I thought you'd know better! 
I told my wife to kill the spider when it twitched so what's that say about me? 