We had a lot of conflicts after we got married and had our first son as well. It always seemed to be him getting angry at me when I just wanted to discuss things nicely - whichever of us started the discussion. I think he's really improved and mellowed over the years though - we can go many weeks without a major argument, although I do think he can have a bit of an aggressive attitude to other people sometimes (when he's driving, usually), which seems like a bad example for the kids. I've become a bit more resilient about, and been reacting better to, some of the things he says and his moods as well. I feel a bit sad when I think of how I missed out on being in love with someone who was in love with me too, but on the plus side we enjoy many of the same things in life and have the same basic values and goals, he's pretty funny generally and we laugh a lot, he's usually quite thoughtful these days - and some other things
So it's not too bad.
I used to work with someone who was pretty old-fashioned; he thought that everyone should give marriage one go and seemed to think it doesn't matter much who you marry, as long as you follow traditional male/female roles and the woman doesn't get too bossy 
- he was separated from his wife. I argued that people should get married because they love each other, and not just for the sake of being married, but then I went and basically got married for the sake of being married at the first possible opportunity 
