Yes, forced love is NOT love! Was just thinking about this - the very fact that God is sovereign AND He actually hates the very sins He nonetheless has chosen to allow us the freedom to commit (but for a limited period) - that's a huge nail in the Calvinist narrative - which is, "God is Sovereign, man has no choice but to sin," because "those not of the elect are incapable of choosing God or doing anything but continue sinning against God." Whhaaaa??? - so, GOD trapped vast millions in the very sins He hates - especially the sin of unrepentance - which Calvinism, if true, would mean. So, the sin of unrepentance would then be GOD caused - why? Because the Calvinist says there is NO choice by man, when it comes to salvation - that God chooses who He will save - AND, what many of them often deny, is by their own theological logic, that would mean that God also doomed much of humanity to misery now and eternal punishment, later - not because of their rejecting Him (nooooo - remember, with Calvinism, there is NO choice), but because He supposedly rejects them. And they also believe God is a God of love? He'd also be a God of unimaginable hate - on a scale that would make Hitler look like an amateur - IF 5 Pt. Calvinism were true.Love without free will? Not possible.
Hell - just our refusing of God...
Rather interesting, is it not, that the Apostle Paul in Acts 17 said that, "The times of ignorance God overlooked, but now he commands all people everywhere to repent..." Ah, but Calvinists insist that those non-elect CANNOT repent - per God's supposed choice of ALSO choosing the non-elect's eternal status before they were even born. Are we to think God is not fair - that He demands of "all people everywhere" repentance, when He's supposedly made most of them so as this would be impossible for them???!!! He requires obedience to something He's supposedly prevented???!!! As well, why the anger at those non-repentant, IF He has trapped them in their inability to repent? In fact, according to Five Point Calvinism, people remain unrepentant and unsaved BECAUSE THAT IS PRECISELY WHAT GOD DESIRED FOR THEM - thus He's trapped them in unrepentance without any way out / cut off any way for them to be saved. But throughout Scripture, God is angry at people who remain unrepentant - but if He insured this state for them, then His great anger is irrational. Then He's commanded something of people He's made impossible for most to do. This Calvinist teaching is unScriptural and dangerous!
What does the Apostle Paul write in 1 Timothy 2? " 3 This is good, and it is pleasing in the sight of God our Savior,
4 who desires ALL people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. 5 For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus...'
And who was Christ's sacrifice made for - just one group of people? NO!!! Continue to verse 6!
"6 who gave himself as a ransom for ALL, which is the testimony given at the proper time."
Calvinists say it is God's desire that most people remain unsaved / unrepentant. But what does the Bible say?
Ezekiel 33:11: "Say to them, As I live, declares the Lord God, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but that the wicked turn from his way and live..."
2 Peter 3:9: "he Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance."
In Acts 17 and other places, the Apostle Paul was appealing to the reason and intellect of the men of Athens so as to PERSUADE them to come to faith in Christ. But Calvinism asserts that there is NO role in this decision - that God chooses us ONLY - that we play no role in making that decision - as there is no real decision for a man to receive what God offers - but only, supposedly, what God GIVES. Scripture redundantly refutes this!
In Acts 10, the Roman centurion Cornelius began seeking God WAY before He was saved. Yet, was God not wooing him - OF COURSE - and God's wooing is effective upon one with an open and willing heart to listen AND RESPOND BACK to God. But for an UNWILLING man, God's wooing is ignored and avoided. God, IN HIS SOVEREIGNTY, gave man a choice of accepting or rejecting Him, and the ability to seek and respond to Him.
And, finally, what portion of humanity did Jesus come to save?
John 3: "16 “For God so loved the WORLD, that he gave his only Son, that WHOEVER believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. 18 WHOEVER believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.
And notice, in the last underlined verse above, it gives the reason for God condemning a person - and it is NOT because HE decided for them to accept or reject Himself - NO - it indicates one's personal decision is tied to one's eternal fate. God does not FORCE a man to love Him BACK - as how could forced love truly be true love? IN HIS SOVEREIGNTY, God gave man free will to make this decision (to reject or accept). Similarly, God hates sin, and yet He chose to allow it, if but for a brief span in eternity, as one day He will do away with all corruption and sin. So, God desires our love, but also allows our rejection.