These verses below indicate that we should not judge those that are NOT saved, but possibly only those that are saved.
1 Corinthians 5
3For I, on my part, though (E)absent in body but present in spirit, have already judged him who has so committed this, as though I were present.
4(F)In the name of our Lord Jesus, when you are assembled, and I with you in spirit, (G)with the power of our Lord Jesus,
5I have decided to (H)deliver such a one to (I)Satan for the destruction of his flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in (J)the day of the Lord [a]Jesus.
1 Corinthians 5
9 I wrote you in my letter (P)not to associate with immoral people;
10 I did not at all mean with the immoral people of this world, or with the covetous and swindlers, or with (Q)idolaters, for then you would have to go out of the world.
11 But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he is an immoral person, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or a swindler--not even to eat with such a one.
12 For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Do you not judge those who are within the church?
13 But those who are outside, God judges. REMOVE THE WICKED MAN FROM AMONG YOURSELVES.
When a professing Christian is
continually and unremorsefully sinning, we are told not to associate with him/her so that maybe they will see the error of their ways and repent. But this must be done in a loving, humble manner, because Christians are sinners as well, and many times they go about this in an unloving manner, which is sin in itself. We cannot just identify the persons sin and say "THATS WRONG". That does absolutely no good. In addition to identifying the sin (in the most humble manner) we must also pont the beleiver to how loving God is. Because it is not the fear of condemnation that leads us to repent. It is the the goodness of God that leads us to repentance.
Romans 2:4
Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that
the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance?
We should point a person back to the day they were saved, so they can remember what God did for them. Just like God continually told the disobedient Israelites through the prophets to "remember how I saved you out of Egypt?" Now act like someone that is worthy to show the world what true Christianty is supposed to be like.
But with any unsaved person, it matters not what their lifestyle is, we should not judge. For it is impossible for them to see that their lifestyle is sinful until they have been saved. We do not repent from sin to get saved(this would be works based salvation which is a false gospel). We first admit that we are a sinner in need of a saviour, Jesus, and then the Holy Spirit will convict us that we need to repent of our sinful lifestyle.
The conflict occurs in society, when lifestyles or actions are labeled as NOT sinful, but that the Bible states to be sin. Can a person be a Christian and have committed murder or adultery? Of course, think of King David. The same is true of a person who has commited a homosexual act and has the inclination for a homosexual lifestyle. They can also be a Christian, but if they are NOT being convicted that the Homosexual lifestyle is wrong, then they may have never received the Holy Spirit. Just like king david did in his murder and adultry, he had to admit to God that it was wrong, and that he had sinned not just against men but most importantly that he had sinned against God.
If a person does have the HS and is being convicted that any sin is wrong, but still continues to do it, then just as a loving parent will discipline a disobedient child, God will chasten the disobedient Christian, and God MAY possibly chasten to the point of physical death, although the person will still be saved.(1 cor 5:5 or 1 John 5:16 - "sin unto death")
It is about wanting what is
objectively right, regardless of what my current feelings about what
I think it is to be right. We need to learn to think "outside of the box". There is a good secular book called "Leadership and Self-Deception" that tells a story about this concept of thinking outside of the box. The problem is that most people caught in a sinful lifestyle (homosexual or not) are so deeply entrenched that it is hard for them to think outside of their own circumstances. And it is only until they hit bottom are they sometimes willing to consider what they previously believed to be correct, as possibly being incorrect. But even many Christians will interpret scripture to agree with what they think is correct - for what is sin and what is not sin - so they can justify their sinful tendencies. I am sure I have done that myself, but hopefully I am growing in grace, and will continue to interpret scripture objectively.
But like the song "East To West" by Casting Crowns says, "I can't live by what I feel, but by the Truth Your Word reveals"