Bav, I was wandering through the threads and saw this one and read through it. Your POV is the exact same as my own. I have heard many of the same arguments before that have been brought against you in this thread and I disagree with them all. As time has passed I have reflected on this subject from time to time and what has been revealed to my mind and understanding is this simple rationale.
If you believe in God and that his son Jesus died for our sins which of his commandments is it now ok to intentionally not obey and still be saved?
Exo 20
1)I am the LORD thy God, which have brought thee out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage. Thou shalt have no other gods before me.
2)Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.
3)Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.
4)Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days shalt thou labour, and do all thy work: But the seventh day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates: For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day, and hallowed it.
5)Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
6)Thou shalt not kill.
7)Thou shalt not commit adultery.
8 )Thou shalt not steal.
9)Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour.
10)Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.
My position flows from Matthew.
Mat 5:18 For verily I say unto you, Till heaven and earth pass, one jot or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law, till all be fulfilled.
Mat 5:19 Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.
Mat 5:27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
Mat 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Jesus and the apostles brought a new understanding to light about Gods laws and commandments. They showed that it was not simply the following of the law by the letter that counted to God. It was following it in its spirit and in your mind.
Commiting adultery is as much a sin today as it was before God spoke the commandment in sinai. Stealing is still a sin. My understanding is that sin is the breaking of Gods commanments as much today as it was before God spoke the command or after Christ came to pay for our sins. The fact that Christ did come and he did make the sacrifice and that we believe it, does not give us the right to stop obeying his Fathers commands, ever.