A Difference in Perspective (Religious vs Non-Religious)
Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2011 3:01 am
Let me start out by saying I've always been interested in why some people will fight so hard for there not to be a God, and others to fight hard to prove there is one. I have always been somewhat in-between, being raised in a Christian grade-school, falling away from faith in high school, and growing towards it as I have gotten into my late college years. I've grown up on the internet, which seems to be primarily atheistic or agnostic, and a majority of my friends are agnostic as well. These last couple years I really started to analyze both sides, look at each of their arguments, and view all the evidence, all while trying to stay open minded. There are some observations that have stood out to me after being around believers and non-believers, the biggest one being how we each view the world, our perspective.
When growing up, I was raised with an almost ideal Christian background; Loving parents, strong family influence, bible classes, and my perspective on the world was that this was how everyone's life was, mainly because I didn't know anything else. I remember hearing about one of my friend/classmate's parents getting divorced in 6th grade, and how I couldn't even imagine my life with my parents split up. I thought about how much my friend's perspective on life, and love, must have changed at that point. You grow up looking up to your parents, supposedly resembling how a loving relationship should be, and how that is now broken; Trust, commitment, love, all thrown out the window, and you are just a kid that has been thrown into this fire. Not surprisingly, today, that friend is not living a very happy life, and is not religious.
Another of my friend's parents were also divorced when he was at a young age, mainly because his mom cheated on his dad, and was then left to swap between his alcoholic mother's house and strict father/step mother's house. He was raised Catholic, but is currently agnostic and considers me close-minded for believing in Christianity. My last friend's parents were not divorced, but came from a very alcoholic family where his dad often yelled and would occasionally be abusive. He dropped out of high school and went into depression, started getting involved with drugs/alcohol, and is now agnostic after being raised Catholic.
There are plenty of other examples I've found of similar stories, where bad childhood's, drug problems, divorces, alcoholism, and many other factors, corrupt someone's perspective on the world. The majority of the people I meet like this live with somewhat of a hate towards any God that may exist even if they don't acknowledge it. I personally can't speak for how they feel, since I did grow up in an ideal environment, but just from observing and listening to many people that had non-ideal childhoods, they tend to have a negative outlook on the world, life, and God.
The other perspective I've seen from non-believers is the intelligence one, where anyone who believes in God must be stupid, poor, or close-minded since it's all "a fairy-tale." This, mixed with the previous example, is pretty much the current world we live in. Partying, drinking, drugs, sex, and attempting to numb your buried emotional pain are what make you "cool" in our society. When you live this type of life, your perspective is shifted to an 'earth view' where you act more to your animal tendencies. You hear the typical arguments such as "If God exists, why is there pain and suffering? Why do we die? Why didn't God answer my prayer for a new car?" Everything is looked at with, what I like to call, "Earth Goggles". Earth Goggles obviously referring to only seeing this world as our only destination, and the only thing that matters.
These people I talked about generally overlook what Christianity really is. When I started going to my current church, more towards my agnostic phase where I hadn't gone to church in years, it was the first time I saw people that were really devoted to God. There was a guy that sold everything he had, quit his job as a lawyer, and moved his family to China to become a missionary because it was his calling. At first I thought he was crazy, but then, after thinking about it for a while, it made more sense to me; Even though he had pretty much anything he wanted materialistic-wise, his perspective had shifted to a spiritual one, and the emptiness inside him was now filled.
I started imagining what the world would be like if everyone lived like Christ, caring about others before yourself, disregarding earthly desires, and not falling into temptations. It would be the closest thing we would get to a Utopia, which is really what Heaven would be like, and after realizing this is when my perspective changed to become more spiritual than earthly. In a way, our current life isn't reality, it's just a test, a dream even, and it's very easy to get comfortable in this test-world, settle in, and brush away opinions that challenge that. It's very easy to drink away your problems, lust after women, and be selfish; That's why so many Christians fall into trap of having the earthly perspective. It's much harder to become a Christian than it is to become a non-believer.
I would always get asked by my friends and others, "You say that we brush away opinions, but you brush away our opinions". I thought, maybe I was, but that didn't make much sense to me. Why would I want to live my life being judged by a higher power, having to stay away from sins that would be considered fun, and live a pure life? It's because of your perspective. Your eyes have already been opened. I like to compare it to our diet. The majority of people love eating junk food and it makes them fat and sick, but it tastes good for a short period of time, however, if they were raised this way, or had a bad experience eating healthy foods earlier in life, they will look at them negatively without even knowing why later in life. It's also very easy to keep eating junk food because it tastes good. On the other hand, if you grow up eating a healthy diet, you will be less sick and filled with energy. People all around you are eating junk food though, and it's very tempting to give up your healthy diet for the sole purpose of taste. They wonder, "Why eat healthy food when it doesn't taste good? That isn't very logical", but they aren't looking deeper than the surface of the dilemma. They have also been so sick, tired, and fat for so long, that it becomes their reality.
Perspective is a very powerful aspect of the brain, and it can shape how we view anything. Is the glass half full or half empty? If two people were forced to switch to an average internet speed, but one was switching from dial up, and the other from high speed, they would both be using the same internet, but the dial up user would be happy while the high speed user would be upset. So many things can shape our view of the world, and that's why I feel understanding perspective is such an important part of the religion debate, whichever side you are for.
When growing up, I was raised with an almost ideal Christian background; Loving parents, strong family influence, bible classes, and my perspective on the world was that this was how everyone's life was, mainly because I didn't know anything else. I remember hearing about one of my friend/classmate's parents getting divorced in 6th grade, and how I couldn't even imagine my life with my parents split up. I thought about how much my friend's perspective on life, and love, must have changed at that point. You grow up looking up to your parents, supposedly resembling how a loving relationship should be, and how that is now broken; Trust, commitment, love, all thrown out the window, and you are just a kid that has been thrown into this fire. Not surprisingly, today, that friend is not living a very happy life, and is not religious.
Another of my friend's parents were also divorced when he was at a young age, mainly because his mom cheated on his dad, and was then left to swap between his alcoholic mother's house and strict father/step mother's house. He was raised Catholic, but is currently agnostic and considers me close-minded for believing in Christianity. My last friend's parents were not divorced, but came from a very alcoholic family where his dad often yelled and would occasionally be abusive. He dropped out of high school and went into depression, started getting involved with drugs/alcohol, and is now agnostic after being raised Catholic.
There are plenty of other examples I've found of similar stories, where bad childhood's, drug problems, divorces, alcoholism, and many other factors, corrupt someone's perspective on the world. The majority of the people I meet like this live with somewhat of a hate towards any God that may exist even if they don't acknowledge it. I personally can't speak for how they feel, since I did grow up in an ideal environment, but just from observing and listening to many people that had non-ideal childhoods, they tend to have a negative outlook on the world, life, and God.
The other perspective I've seen from non-believers is the intelligence one, where anyone who believes in God must be stupid, poor, or close-minded since it's all "a fairy-tale." This, mixed with the previous example, is pretty much the current world we live in. Partying, drinking, drugs, sex, and attempting to numb your buried emotional pain are what make you "cool" in our society. When you live this type of life, your perspective is shifted to an 'earth view' where you act more to your animal tendencies. You hear the typical arguments such as "If God exists, why is there pain and suffering? Why do we die? Why didn't God answer my prayer for a new car?" Everything is looked at with, what I like to call, "Earth Goggles". Earth Goggles obviously referring to only seeing this world as our only destination, and the only thing that matters.
These people I talked about generally overlook what Christianity really is. When I started going to my current church, more towards my agnostic phase where I hadn't gone to church in years, it was the first time I saw people that were really devoted to God. There was a guy that sold everything he had, quit his job as a lawyer, and moved his family to China to become a missionary because it was his calling. At first I thought he was crazy, but then, after thinking about it for a while, it made more sense to me; Even though he had pretty much anything he wanted materialistic-wise, his perspective had shifted to a spiritual one, and the emptiness inside him was now filled.
I started imagining what the world would be like if everyone lived like Christ, caring about others before yourself, disregarding earthly desires, and not falling into temptations. It would be the closest thing we would get to a Utopia, which is really what Heaven would be like, and after realizing this is when my perspective changed to become more spiritual than earthly. In a way, our current life isn't reality, it's just a test, a dream even, and it's very easy to get comfortable in this test-world, settle in, and brush away opinions that challenge that. It's very easy to drink away your problems, lust after women, and be selfish; That's why so many Christians fall into trap of having the earthly perspective. It's much harder to become a Christian than it is to become a non-believer.
I would always get asked by my friends and others, "You say that we brush away opinions, but you brush away our opinions". I thought, maybe I was, but that didn't make much sense to me. Why would I want to live my life being judged by a higher power, having to stay away from sins that would be considered fun, and live a pure life? It's because of your perspective. Your eyes have already been opened. I like to compare it to our diet. The majority of people love eating junk food and it makes them fat and sick, but it tastes good for a short period of time, however, if they were raised this way, or had a bad experience eating healthy foods earlier in life, they will look at them negatively without even knowing why later in life. It's also very easy to keep eating junk food because it tastes good. On the other hand, if you grow up eating a healthy diet, you will be less sick and filled with energy. People all around you are eating junk food though, and it's very tempting to give up your healthy diet for the sole purpose of taste. They wonder, "Why eat healthy food when it doesn't taste good? That isn't very logical", but they aren't looking deeper than the surface of the dilemma. They have also been so sick, tired, and fat for so long, that it becomes their reality.
Perspective is a very powerful aspect of the brain, and it can shape how we view anything. Is the glass half full or half empty? If two people were forced to switch to an average internet speed, but one was switching from dial up, and the other from high speed, they would both be using the same internet, but the dial up user would be happy while the high speed user would be upset. So many things can shape our view of the world, and that's why I feel understanding perspective is such an important part of the religion debate, whichever side you are for.