That may be true in states, but here the LGBT community is most often treated with hatred. They haven't even considered marriage yet. Which if they did would result in a backlash of the society equal to when the afro-americans first demanded education over at the states.
I do think that you are stating two different things, when you do realize that Gays can't do anything about their desires, then that just follows that they needed to be treated in equality. Now, as for gay marriage is concerned, even if the want the word, so what? What does that change? People take up sexual orientation as kids but they don't do it because of external factors. Anymore then we change sexuality because of external factors. Its most likely hardwired. And if its hardwired then either your child is gay or straight, but whatever he is, the definition of what marriage is, will only affect him in theory. Practically he isn't going to turn gay because the word marriage is open to same-sex too. Or he isn't going to remain straight just because the society recognizes it between man and woman.
On the same hand you also say that it is a mistake to allow them this right. Well if they behave this naturally then we must admit that the problem lies there, in the persons being and how they are created.
Consider the alternative, and what good does that do? What if marriage is only reserved for straight people, so then what you have is a class of citizens which are actually labeled disordered. And the fact that their disorder has nothing to do with their choice, makes it all the more, unfair.
They want full acceptance on the part of society as their lifestyle being normal, being ordered, having normative moral standing.
So does people who lie or drink or whatever.
Even a murderer has the same right to a fair trail as an un-convicted citizen.
But we, as a society, need to treat those desires as what they are: intrinsically disordered. We do not change fundamental institutions to accommodate disorder.
Yes you do, those people are as much part of the society as you are. Its not a theocracy. Its democracy, there is no hard line institution-defined, resting in the OM concretely. Your laws change so does the words and so does the culture.
I have seen obnoxious behavior from the gay community but that is no more different then we having fred phelps and his family. I know gay teens who committed suicide. And I am currently engaged with two more teens who frequently go in and out of suicidal depression, counselling them and all, but for the life of me, I have stopped telling them that they need to change, frankly they can't, I tried it but they can't. I used to think like you but my interaction has kind of affected my views. I see more need of compassion and less for rules and theories. I may be flat out wrong but I believe we should do what helps even if its based in absurdities like squared triangles.
Our wild cat gave birth to two kittens, they are really small. I try to feed them often out of my own hand. One scratches me, the other just cowers down but eats nonetheless. I have improved the trust bond with the latter kitten but still, with each loose grip, he shoots out of my hands, that is just how is wired to behave and he does that. I have tried a lot to change his attitude, but still can't. He falls back to do what he does.
I sometimes wonder, what will happen to our natural law, if we did concretely find out that God in his infinite wisdom hardwired the gay people and the straight people and the bi-crowd. I really do think it will be a dent in our understanding of who God is.
my Islamic coworkers think that I am not equal to them also, that my faith is basically false and that makes me inferior and wrong. I am asked to recite koran in the school. Say their prayers, learn their prayers and on occasion recite their prayers, its all part of academics here. Just because they define equal differently to what I think it is, there is no reason why anyone on a social scale should accommodate it because according to others, its defined as such. When something does not match with your reality, you can't accept it.
TBH, I agree in theory with what you said, but I also feel that in agreeing with this, we are opening up to a wider gap between people. We are right in principle but wrong still. Its not enough. It solves nothing. Its a futile attempt.
You know it would be have been much better of an action if we offer no resistance, let them be equal, I think this will actually help in making bridges. Keep playing tug of war and so far, they are inching towards their goal.