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To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2016 10:43 pm
by Nessa
Since joining here, I have felt stereotyped by certain individuals.
And I have also stereotyped others which I deeply regret
On a board like this tho, it can be hard to really get a true grasp on who someone is and what they believe. Miscommunication can be so easy as well as taking or giving offense. And before we know it we can find ourselves put in a box or putting someone else in a box.
I guess what Im trying to say is don't be so quick to make assumptions about people.
What they do or don't believe. What their character is like. Always stay open to the possibility you could be wrong about someone.
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” - Anas Nin
That includes seeing how people are. We can often view people through our own experiences with others, good or bad.
Everyone deserves to be seen as they truly are not who they are truly not.
Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2016 10:54 pm
by Kurieuo
I'm always misunderstood.
Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2016 11:01 pm
by Nessa
Kurieuo wrote:I'm always misunderstood.
I would say 'I understand' but that would make what you just said not true
Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2016 11:02 pm
by Kurieuo
What, you liked then removed your like!?
I'm not quite sure what to make of that. Does the mean my comment was liked?
Or, it's like, oops accidentally liked and now I'm removing it because I actually hate your comment.
Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2016 11:09 pm
by Nessa
Kurieuo wrote:What, you liked then removed your like!?
I'm not quite sure what to make of that. Does the mean my comment was liked?
Or, it's like, oops accidentally liked and now I'm removing it because I actually hate your comment.
My thumb fumbled
I meant to quote you.. I didnt want to leave the 'like' there and have you think that I like you feeling misunderstood cos then you might misunderstand me and stereotype me as a mean person
Now Im just poking fun at my own thread, arent I?
Not to mention stealing Rick's thunder
Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2016 4:17 am
by RickD
Nessa wrote:Since joining here, I have felt stereotyped by certain individuals.
And I have also stereotyped others which I deeply regret
On a board like this tho, it can be hard to really get a true grasp on who someone is and what they believe. Miscommunication can be so easy as well as taking or giving offense. And before we know it we can find ourselves put in a box or putting someone else in a box.
I guess what Im trying to say is don't be so quick to make assumptions about people.
What they do or don't believe. What their character is like. Always stay open to the possibility you could be wrong about someone.
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” - Anas Nin
That includes seeing how people are. We can often view people through our own experiences with others, good or bad.
Everyone deserves to be seen as they truly are not who they are truly not.
Nessa,
I have you pegged as a half-witted, ditzy blonde. Where am I wrong with that stereotype of you?
Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2016 7:06 am
by PaulSacramento
Nessa wrote:Since joining here, I have felt stereotyped by certain individuals.
And I have also stereotyped others which I deeply regret
On a board like this tho, it can be hard to really get a true grasp on who someone is and what they believe. Miscommunication can be so easy as well as taking or giving offense. And before we know it we can find ourselves put in a box or putting someone else in a box.
I guess what Im trying to say is don't be so quick to make assumptions about people.
What they do or don't believe. What their character is like. Always stay open to the possibility you could be wrong about someone.
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” - Anas Nin
That includes seeing how people are. We can often view people through our own experiences with others, good or bad.
Everyone deserves to be seen as they truly are not who they are truly not.
Do you know why we stereotype?
Because it tends to be accurate when dealing with the MASS.
It is however, not very accurate when dealing with the individual.
In short, we generalize the group because, as a whole, a group does indeed tend to display the features that are stereotypical.
Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2016 9:51 am
by B. W.
Nessa we all love you!
I always look forward to reading you post.
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Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2016 4:47 pm
by Nessa
RickD wrote:Nessa wrote:Since joining here, I have felt stereotyped by certain individuals.
And I have also stereotyped others which I deeply regret
On a board like this tho, it can be hard to really get a true grasp on who someone is and what they believe. Miscommunication can be so easy as well as taking or giving offense. And before we know it we can find ourselves put in a box or putting someone else in a box.
I guess what Im trying to say is don't be so quick to make assumptions about people.
What they do or don't believe. What their character is like. Always stay open to the possibility you could be wrong about someone.
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” - Anas Nin
That includes seeing how people are. We can often view people through our own experiences with others, good or bad.
Everyone deserves to be seen as they truly are not who they are truly not.
Nessa,
I have you pegged as a half-witted, ditzy blonde. Where am I wrong with that stereotype of you?
Aaarggghh! I 'liked'you too by mistake but this is one of those times Im too lazy to undo it
Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2016 4:49 pm
by Nessa
BW's 'like' was genuine tho
Re: To GnS Board Members & Mods
Posted: Sat Mar 12, 2016 11:47 am
by Philip
My advice: Don't impulsively decide the truth of something or something that has been said mostly based upon how it makes you feel. A lot of us have one particular issue or chip on our shoulders from past perceived slights or hurts, and when anyone swerves anywhere close to it with a comment or idea, we go bezerk over it. Everyone that says something that offends our sensitivities is A) out to get us or B) is totally devoid of truth. I've got a pretty thick skin, but there are somethings that will bring an emotional reaction far quicker than other things. The Christians here, for the most part, don't typically try to deliberately tick people off or hurt their feelings - although they sometimes do without malice. So, let's take a few deep breaths and perhaps ask a followup question as opposed to simply reacting out of anger or hurt.